I Appreciate You
I Appreciate Because of You
An interesting word is “appreciate.”
In English, we use it in two different ways. It means, in one form, “to recognize the quality, significance, or magnitude of; to admire, be thankful or show gratitude for” and in another form, “to increase in value”.
And, it is in these two forms of use, that it can also be seen as a tool for improving one’s own existence. For those qualities which we most admire and are the most thankful for can serve as indicators and a template to guide our course forward to the things we want most to accomplish in life. Those qualities you appreciate are a manifestation of who you are and who you wish to become; they give you a direction to move towards to increase your own value to yourself and others.
Letting Go of Judgement
Being judgmental is often seen as a negative characteristic. “Judgement” has grown in use to being something quite different than non-conditional discernment and has taken on the color of conceit and self-aggrandizement. With this, many people hold up the idea to others of being or becoming nonjudgmental as a merit worth attaining, but they rarely talk or write about how to do that. The tool for letting go of judgement lies in the word and the concept behind “appreciation”.
I constantly strive to find something to admire and appreciate in every person and everything that I encounter. And it is a very interesting activity to pursue because, in doing so and devoting oneself solely to seeing the qualities around one––even to going a step further and being grateful for them––one finds the element of negative judgement start to dissolve. The key to this lies in devoting one’s focus and attention entirely to the act of appreciation.
The next time you find yourself in the position to judge someone for what they do or are, give this a try. Find something to admire or appreciate about them. Put all of your attention in your dealings with that person directly on finding something to appreciate about them. If you can, if you can find the humility, create a feeling of thankfulness in your appreciation––be grateful for that quality you found; be grateful for that person coming into your life to show it to you, to give you a model for or a confirmation of a quality in your own life; thank them in word or deed, as well … if you are brave enough.
Being judgmental is actually quite uncomfortable. As one sorts through all of the things that they dislike about another, there is a distinct feeling of being mired in negativity. This perpetuates itself as well; being carried further into the day, the week, the year, lasting far longer than the moment of being judgmental itself. The way to break this habit is to place your focus entirely on what you appreciate instead. It takes a bit of doing at times, but it is never impossible.
I appreciate you.
I appreciate because of you.
For it is you who has taught me this lesson. Every single one of you.
I thank you from the bottom of my heart.